Alexandra Roxo is a renowned love and intimacy coach, spiritual guide, and bestselling author whose work blends depth psychology, spirituality, and sacred sexuality. She’s been featured in The New York Times, Vogue, Harper’s Bazaar, Playboy, and on Netflix’s Too Hot to Handle—where she was called the “Deeper Connection Queen” for helping singles build emotional intimacy and communication skills. In her practice, she guides women to break free from shame, reconnect with their bodies, and experience pleasure as a vital part of their wholeness.
A Love & Intimacy Coach’s Honest Review of the LELO Switch
As a love and intimacy coach, I’ve spent years helping women reclaim their pleasure, break through old patterns, and see their sexuality not as something separate from who they are, but as a sacred, vital part of their wholeness. My work weaves together depth psychology, spirituality, and conscious relationship practices to help women feel more deeply and in turn, love more deeply.
When it comes to tools that support this journey, I’m discerning. They have to feel intentional, beautifully made, and able to hold space for a range of experiences. That’s why I gravitate toward LELO. Their designs are thoughtful, elegant, and built to support not just pleasure, but presence. Known globally as the gold standard in luxury intimacy, they’ve been featured in Women’s Health, Goop, and Allure for their ability to merge cutting-edge innovation with design that’s as stunning as it is functional.
When LELO released their latest innovation, the LELO Switch, I was intrigued. It’s a double sided vibrator beautifully designed, thoughtfully engineered, and unlike anything else in my collection. But more importantly, it’s a tool I knew could help women (and couples) explore pleasure in ways that are both playful and deeply healing.
Why self-intimacy is sacred
If you’ve never thought of self-pleasure or even your sexuality as something sacred, it’s not your fault. Most of us have been programmed by society, religion, or cultural norms to carry shame around our bodies and our desires. We’ve been taught that sexuality and spirituality are separate, when in truth, they are both part of the same wholeness that makes us human.
When we reclaim our sexuality as something inherently good, something worthy of love and reverence, we don’t just transform our own lives. We shift the narrative in our relationships, our communities, and ultimately in the world.
That’s why I approach tools like the LELO Switch not just as devices for pleasure, but as companions in a larger practice of self-intimacy. They can help us reconnect to our bodies, explore sensations without guilt, and meet ourselves with curiosity instead of judgment.
My first experience with the LELO Switch
The first thing I noticed about the Switch was the quality. LELO doesn’t cut corners and you can feel that the moment you touch it. It has a certain weight, a softness to the surface, and a textured ribbing that catches nerve endings in the most delicious way.
What makes the Switch unique is its versatility. It’s double sided, with one end designed for powerful external stimulation and the other for textured internal pleasure. You can switch (literally) between ends depending on your mood, your needs, or the part of your body you want to explore. For me, that ability to move seamlessly between sensations was a revelation. It mirrors how I guide clients to move between different emotional and physical states in their intimacy practices.
When I first used it, I noticed how rhythmic the sensations felt. Even on the lowest setting, it was intense for my body, which meant I had to stay really present with what I was feeling. There were moments I needed to pause, breathe, and let the sensations settle. That’s an important part of any sacred self-pleasure practice not rushing to the end, but letting yourself fully inhabit the journey.
The difference it makes in practice
In my work, I often guide women to start by identifying and releasing the beliefs that keep them from fully enjoying their bodies. Once you’ve begun that process, incorporating a tool like the Switch can help bridge the gap between intention and experience.
Because the Switch offers both internal and external options and 10 different vibration patterns across both ends. It can meet you exactly where you are. Some days, you might want quick, teasing pulses. Other times, deep, rhythmic stimulation that brings you into a trance-like state. And for those moments when you want to process emotions, release tension, or simply reconnect to your body, the Switch can be used slowly and intentionally as part of a longer ritual.
It’s also incredibly intuitive to use once you’ve learned where the controls are. The buttons are easy to navigate mid-practice, and the range of 16 intensities lets you fine-tune the experience so you’re never overwhelmed—or underwhelmed.
Why it stands out from other tools
I’ve tried a lot of products over the years, and the Switch truly stands apart. Many devices focus solely on external pleasure, which is wonderful but misses the depth that internal stimulation can bring. The Switch offers both in one beautifully designed piece.
It’s also partner-friendly. You can use it solo or invite your partner to explore with you, giving them the chance to be part of your experience while still keeping you in control of the sensations. In fact, using the Switch with a partner can open up beautiful conversations about what you like, what you need, and how you want to be touched, conversations that are essential for deeper intimacy.
Integrating it into a sacred sensuality ritual
If I were guiding a client through a ritual with the Switch, I’d start by creating a safe, cozy space with dim lighting, candles, music that makes you feel held. Then, I’d invite them to take a few deep breaths, drop into their body, and ask: What do I need right now? Maybe it’s a quick release. Maybe it’s a deep exploration of the G-spot, cervix, or clitoris. Maybe it’s moving through numbness or releasing shame.
From there, it’s about letting the Switch be a tool for connection, not just climax. You can explore both ends, move between settings, and even combine it with touch on other parts of the body. When the session feels complete, I recommend closing with stillness—placing a hand over the heart, thanking yourself for the experience, and grounding back into the present moment.
Who it’s for
The beauty of the Switch is that it’s as welcoming to first-time users as it is exciting for those deep into their sensual journey. It meets you where you are, and it grows with you. Whether you’re healing from disconnection, reigniting desire, or simply looking to expand your repertoire, it’s a worthy addition to your intimacy toolkit.
For me, Switch isn’t just a pleasure device. it’s a multi-purpose ritual tool. It’s something I can integrate into my own practices and recommend to clients knowing it will support them in reconnecting with their bodies. The combination of luxury design, customizable sensations, and the freedom to switch between internal and external pleasure makes it unlike anything else I’ve tried.
If you’re ready to explore your pleasure with more presence, more curiosity, and more reverence for your body, this is a beautiful place to start. And if you already have a ritual, Switch might just bring a whole new dimension to it.
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